Setting Intentions

Listen to the way you talk.
Notice the way you think.

Do you say/think, “I’ll try …”
and, with it, you feel bound to fail?

Imagine saying, “I am committing myself to … today.”
“I am making a commitment today to …”
feels more powerful than, “I’ll try …”

You can also,
“Set an intention for (someone’s name here) highest good.”

This is used in Healing Touch energy work.
Before beginning, the practitioner
“sets an intention for the client’s highest good.”

As a healthcare provider, I can set an intention
for the highest good of my next patient as I enter the room.

As a coach, I can set an intention
for the highest good of my client before we meet for a session.

When I choose to use this in my daily life,
I can set an intention
for the highest good of the people I encounter.

Setting an intention for good for another person
is also a way to choose to be accountable for
my thoughts and words and actions towards others.

I intend to …
I mean to …
I plan to …
I will take action to …

When I set an intention,
I am making a choice for good things to happen.

When I set an intention,
I am making a choice to be ‘intentional’ about what I do and say.

The Time is Now

One of the biggest mistakes I make is thinking I have more time.

Realistically, all I am guaranteed is this moment.
I don’t have yesterday. I may not have tomorrow.

My challenge is to be mindful in this moment, aware, fully alive.
My challenge is also to believe in the future, and take action now.

The choices I made in the past are part of where I am today.
The choices I make today will be part of where I am tomorrow.

I choose to live now with gratitude and joy.
I choose to to let go of things I cannot change.
I choose to look forward with hope, and make good choices each day.


When you talk with a coach,
you are talking with someone
who will listen to you carefully.

When you talk with a coach,
you will hear wise words spilling out
from your own mouth.

When you talk with a coach,
you will choose what to talk about.
You will decide what you want to focus on.

When you talk with a coach,
you have the opportunity to recognize
you already have answers inside you.

When you talk with a coach,
you focus on what you want to change or do.
You choose what steps to take, how big, and how many.

When you talk with a coach,
you have the opportunity to feel seen and heard.
You have the opportunity to discover your own wisdom.

Helping Others

When we help others, we are also helping ourselves.

None of us is totally independent. We need other people.

When we recognize our interdependence, we can ask for help and offer help as we are able.


Healing may be messy.
Healing may take time.
Healing may be intentional.

Healing may come with rest.
Healing may come with laughter.
Healing may come with physical activity.

Healing may depend on care from others.
Healing may depend on caring for others.

Healing may come with creativity.
Healing may come with self-care.
Healing may come with gratitude.

Healing may come with music.
Healing may come with love.
Healing may come with joy.

Maybe healing is in the body.
Maybe healing is for the soul.
One way or another, you can heal.

ADHD is a Deficit of Executive Function, Not Attention

Those who have ADHD know this is true. Attention is everywhere except where it is ‘supposed’ to be. In fact, attention is rarely focused on the required task unless there is a sense of urgency and established consequences.  You know what to do, yet you are often unable to follow through with your good intentions.

The person who has ADHD has ‘time blindness’.  If you are this person, you understand how hard it is to be on time almost anywhere for almost any reason. Your intentions are good, and then you see something or think of something, and in your mind, you are sure you have time to get it done before you have to leave. Once again, you are rushing to meet a starting time you have already missed. Once again, you are embarrassed when you are late to an appointment, or a meeting, or work. No matter  how early you start, somehow you are almost always late.

‘Out of sight, out of mind’ is something you understand, too. You may have things out instead of put away in your home or office, because you know if you put them away, you’ll forget about them. If you are a student with a paper or project due 2 months away, it disappears into thin air until the deadline is too close to ignore. You mean to work on it every day, but without small goals, and frequent reminders, it slips right out of your mind.

Your attention is everywhere, and it is so hard to pay attention and focus when someone is talking to you. You notice this. The people who want your attention notice it, too. It may be causing problems in a relationship. Maybe you fidget, or doodle, or make notes, or think about something else that passes through your mind. You don’t mean to not pay attention.

You are very sensitive to how angry and critical and disapproving people seem to be when you don’t follow through. It’s not that you wanted to let people down. It just happened. Then, it happened again, and again, and again.

You’re not a bad person. You know what to do. You simply have a brain that has difficulty taking you from knowing what to do, to taking the necessary action to accomplish your intended goal in the way you want to do it. You may feel very bad about yourself. You may feel like a failure when you don’t follow through, or meet expectations, or pay attention, or manage your life in the way you think you should.

It’s okay. You are okay. There are things you can do, steps you can take, to begin to follow through on what you want to do, wish to do, and intend to do. 


Imagining Change (and Celebrating Imagination)

Imagining change is part of changing.

Change feels so hard for many of us. Sometimes, even imagining a change feels overwhelming. 

Imagining change is something to celebrate.

When we understand that fear of change can be the beginning of our journey, we can celebrate that we are imagining a change.

Imagining small steps I can take is something to celebrate.

Imagination allows me to move from “I can’t” to “I know I can do this one small thing.”

Imagining change is a step forward.

Imagining myself taking tiny steps is more important than I realize.

Imagining change is a step towards making the changes I want to make. 

1. Imagine the change you want to make.

2. Imagine how things will be in your life after you’ve done this.

3. Imagine one tiny action you can do easily and enjoyably that will take you one step closer to your goal.

4. Celebrate your imagination. Your imagination will take you far.

Welcome to Grateful Joy Coaching

Welcome to Grateful Joy Coaching

The name is based on the belief that choosing gratitude leads to joy.

The intention of Grateful Joy Coaching is that we will find it easy to choose gratitude, and we will discover we are delighted by joy.